Inspired by Anjali's post, here is a story to tell you the other extreme,
A neighbor of mine got married couple of months back. He is a simple nice guy. The bride was a pretty girl. She had to resign her job she had in her city and move in with this guy. The guy lives with his parents but the parents were planning to stay separately after 6 months. After 2 months of their marriage, and after traveling to-fro on weekends, she finally came down to join the family. She started her job hunt. I met her couple of times. She almost looked like a college-goer to me. When I say college goer, I mean that kind of enthusiasm, that kind of language and subjects. In 2 weeks time she went back home. A few days latter we heard, the neighbors were arrested by the local police for women harassment & for demanding dowry. From what I hear, the neighbors (excluding the guy) had an altercation with the bride and she packed off. The parents came in and they had a spat, they came in with a recorder, recorded everything the guys parents said, and that was presented as proof. Smart you might say. Sleazy is what I thought it was.
.My problem with this whole issue is, the way this was handled by the girls' parents. I can only guess what would have happened. My neighbors aren't particularly very great with their communication skills. The parents would have taunted about dowry or about what did her father pack her off with. She met it head along. A hot tempered father heard his daughters woes and just came in to teach them a lesson.The case is in family court and if proved is 5 yrs of imprisonment. We haven't met the neighbors eye to eye after that.
Every married girl has faced taut comments from in-laws about herself, her worth or her family, some directly, some indirectly. Every girl deals with it. Some spat back, some ignore it & some might brood over it in private or bitch to friends about it but surely put it past you to put your life in perspective. Whatever be the deal, you are looking forward to a life with the man you chose to marry for whatever reasons. If a girl & her family were to retort to such ways of getting back, its going to prove disastrous. This kind of a treatment is surely not deserved.
Too little or too much tolerance, both can prove dangerous.
What do you think?