Let me narrate a small incident. I have a colleague who sits close to my bay. He got engaged recently. So as expected the guy is mostly on the phone. His conversations aren't very low and I am not deaf so I like many others hear him not less than 5 times a day mushing away to his fiance. What irritates me, other than the fact that he is mushing away loudly, is that he always seems to be yelling at the girl with off-beat dialogues like "Do you have any brains?", "Are you stupid", "Hey idiot" and so on. He is not kidding. He is serious. They are discussing marriage preps, they are discussing relatives visitng each other and that is when these pearls-of-wisdom come up. I get so irritated with the way he talks & tries to command her around.
Now I was so irritated one afternoon after over hearing one such conversation, I just asked him why is he so rude. The reply was "Oh thatz ok, don't worry. I love her a lot and I will take good care of her". I smiled and did not continue the conversation. The gentleman thinks if you love your partner, that is all she needs.
A wife needs to be respected and loved. Respect being as important as love if not more important. Guys who think that they are the man of the house and the women folk know nothing and degrade them in front of a crowd are basically insecure about their ownself and self worth. These are the men who have ego issues with women in the team & women leading the team because in all probablitlity they are thinking "She should be in the kitchen and I should have been in her chair". This probably was the norm dragon years ago, surely not now. And I am more surprised at this girl, well-educated and well traveled for taking in this kind of a behaviour, not that she is already married and needs to re-think tons of things before taking a harsh step forward. I think when you accept, you are responsible for the beast in the making. It basically shows your low-esteem too.
Coming back to my question, Is Love all you need? Is love enough to live a life togather? Would you sacrifice your self-respect for love?